Big Shout Out to Ricky Sinz for wining Best Porn Star blog at the 2010 Grabbys. I had an old Vid of Me and Ricky that I want to re post here it goes:
Ricky tells it like it is and I love him for it!!! No bullshit str8up realness!!!
Okay I haven't spoken his name since We broke up!! Jeremy Feist there you have it!!! My ex(if you could say that LOL) We didn't go into the story of what exactly what happened!! I think its time here goes:
I have a controlling nature, I liked Jeremy so much that I wanted to control his career and I wasn't comfortable with the whole idea of him being a bottom in the Industry(He was my boy I didn't want to share). I became so aggressive with him Verbally, I think I scared him away!!! He took for the hills running and I cant blame him. I have been lonely for a long time and I fell for the kid, I remember we were on Skype for 18hours str8 one day. I cried with him, laughed with him and I grew highly attached to him.
The mistakes keep replaying in my head over and over. I freaked out once when We were driving because We were lost. I guess I didn't have a chance to tell him that I hate being lost. I mean I hate it!! It makes me feel powerless that I can't find my way home or find a place that is safe for Me. I was the kid that got lost in amusements parks, lost in the mall, lost in woods. I would fall to my knees and start crying because I felt alone and scared!!! Yes I was that kid that had Park rangers looking for Me. I had Mall security bring Me to the Lost and Found Office and my Mom had to be paged to come to Lost and Found to get her son. This happened more than several times when growing up. To this day I have anxiety attacks because of it, I shake and become loud and just a mess. I'm sure He got an ear full from Me when we were driving around lost.
One of the worst mistakes was picking on his insecurities, we all have them!! In my attempt to make him stronger, I wasn't building him up and supporting him. I was tearing him down and bringing his insecurities to light even more. In my mind I was preparing him for the harsh world of haters out there. Wrong tactic!! And when I realized that it was too late!!
I guess the worst mistake was going on and on about him throwing out my ganja. Ouch it was an hour(or longer)lecture about throwing out my stash. Yikes!!!!
Why am I telling you all of this??????
I have noticed that this problem continued in my other relationships. I want to change badly, but I didn't know what the problem was. Finally I found the key to the problem. More or less...
I Personal Train, do porn, and escort, all those areas of work are based on Looks, Sex and the body!! I'm heavily engaged in the sex trade and having sex is like changing socks to Me(I'm serious) My sexually side gets plenty of attention, but my Romantic/Emotional side gets nothing.....
So when I see that someone is interested in me more than a sexual nature. My Romantic and emotional side run wild and I become attached quickly. I really believe that I'm starved Emotionally/Romantically....
So much that I often get confused with the emotions that are running through Me because its been a long time since I have been with someone that I wake up in the morning to. And even if that happens, the thoughts that run through my mind are:
Are they interested in Me more than just sex??
Are they trying to use Me for something???
Will they like the real Me??
Am I into them more than they are into Me??
I know it sounds stupid, and probably makes no sense to you. But it makes sense to Me!!
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I still read Jeremy's blog www.notesonbarnapkins.blogspot.com and I miss him!!! He has been going through alot of stuff lately with an operation. Moving in with parents and he probably doesn't know that I still think about him from time to time. I miss those days of excitement bro....*sigh
I had to bring back Our breakup Vid, its kinda of funny watching it because it mirrored real life...
Anyway.....
I feel that Jeremy is the future of the Porn Star bloggers, Grabby people if your listening I think Jeremy needs to be nominated for Best Porn Star blogger for 2011 he's a smart writer, makes good observations about things, and hes just funny!! He is well rounded with witty posts, personal info, and I find that he always stays ahead of the pack!!
Not to leave this post on a Sad note, I really think I'm going to die alone in this world. I have alot of work to do on myself and I'm only 40plus(time is running out) I'm just tired of being alone so I figure that something has to give.
My porn career
or
My issues
I haven't made the choice yet....
8 comments:
Motherfucker get your ass to some therapy. Like now. Yeah, you'll say I don't need any help, blah, blah, blah. But you got MAJOR issues.
Your next post better be about finding a damn therapist.
Yeah, he has some issues, but don't we all? It's life... I haven't read anything he couldn't resolve on his own if he set his mind to it. I say, "Work on your problems like you do your body in the gym and you'll become the person you want to be." If working in the porn business brings you happiness for that PART of your life -- because we are all multifaceted -- then do it to the best of your ability and consider any personal problems or challenges you have as important side issues to work on too. Life is seldom an 'either this or that' situation. You know what's keeping you from good relationships, Diesel, so solve those problems. Do what you do best and work on the rest...
Agree with James. High degree of self absorbtion, paranoia and anxiety. Probably have a lot of headaches to. Your sex glands need rejuvenating. You over medicated with weed. You're hastening the ending of your physical being so you need to concentrate on the issues. Build your spirit and soul.
i agree with James, therapy will help.
you're over 40? i would have taken you for late 20s to 30. and i'm not blowing smoke, i really did think you were younger.
Um, I wouldn't put it QUITE that strongly...but...Man, you need someone qualified to help you with these issues. I ain't lying, get you to a therapist, a psychologist, or a trusted mentor. Spill. Get better. You are obviously a kind-hearted dude. Until you get these things worked out, true love/friendship will elude you.
I agree with James below, therapy would help. But, I give you props for your self assessment. You are pretty much on point. In all of your relationships, since I've been following your blogs, have lasted but a minute. You normally take the approach to blame your partner and adding a small tidbit of ownership on your part. Like many of us single men, we are a work in progress. However, when bringing someone into our lives, we have to allow for imperfection and the no-so-perfect lover or friend. God be with you, my brother.
I understand some of those feeling. I am not a porn star but I tend to push guys away just because I get attached really fast or because I am scared to love again. Atleast you see your problem which is the first step to fixing it. Love your blogs. It really show that porn star are just people at the end of the day
I took my time in think if I should Comment on this one... First because I don't really know you really listen... But I think we all need a hear where to express what we think about ourself. any way. You are just a Man... we all have issues... and in relationship there is not a book or rule to fallow... The true is that what u feel is normal, and what it made you a real man, is learn from your mistakes... I know porn business most be hard on what have a relationship have to be... but that depend on you. and all your questions you have every time you wake up. are valid questions... It doesn't mean that you won't find a person that love for how you are and who you are and respect you for what u do, and give the respect that you deserved.
And We can not control what other people feels, only what we feel... and if you feel love and you want express it, do it, we only count with today. tomorrow we don't what will happen, so the only think we can do it love like we never been hurt.
ED4CR
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